K - finally going to write it:-) Wow - Love my hunky little, intensely strong-willed Samuel Joseph!!
Imagine - the simplest things in life: puting on a shirt; opening a door; picking something up; walking to another room; getting into bed (priceless!!); waking up; cutting a sandwich; AND SO ON. Well, these are RARELY simple in our home. Sometimes these one or two second activities can take 30 minutes and involve a mega tantrum.
Lately, it seems to be getting worse. Not sure if it's the OCD or just the AS?. We put him to bed and we have to stand like a statue while he gets under his covers - all the while him saying "Wait, wait wait wait wait, okay - melt, you can leave now." The whole time he is watching to see if you move - forget trying to leave he'll have a total fit and start all over again. The other day we were at 'Nana & Papa's' and were going to leave. He had said goodbye and we were ready to go (or so I thought!) as I proceeded to pick up bags and go out the door - Sam said "NO I need to say bye to papa on the grass!!...over and over....we had the power struggle with nana and I finally said we just need to let him do it and he'll be fine. He did and he was. Then we get outside - time to get in the car......another battle (won't bore you with details). The CONTROL factor is maddening - but living with this, my husband and I really have to pick our battles or it would be an ALL day thing. Really exhausting.
We'll make him a sandwich - and always use a cookie cutter to make shapes. If we don't ASK what shape he wants and does not like the shape we used - he won't eat it. Almost everything we do involving him is a battle!!
I just started a book called "No More Meltdowns" by Jed Baker, Ph. D. So far what I'm getting from it is PICK your battles - which ones do you have time for, which ones are learing experiences for him, etc. Will tell you more as I learn & have TIME to read:-)
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