Truly - he loves you so much it hurts - literally - he is not gentle by nature. Watch out - he'll come running at you and squeeze you soooo hard - sometimes it does hurt. I have to be careful not to show any unhappiness with his 'love' in that way or he will lose it. So - I just tell him how much I love him and lets try that again only more gentle!! He could literally knock some of you over if you get the pleasure of him showing you his BIG love for you!! You will not forget it - it is truly from the bottom of his heart!!
Some still need to learn to love him for who he is and not label him and not ignore him or how he is. It really hurts as his mother to see friends/family not embrace him for the amazing boy he is. If you have a tough time - imagine your child (if you have one:-)) dealing with the same issues - put yourself in our shoes - REALLY close your eyes and put yourself in our shoes and imagine people NOT interacting or NOT wanting to interact with him/her - it's a lonely sad feeling........mental exercise for the week.......
Asperger's kids/people are known for their open hearts - good or bad - Sam is definitely no exception. I have never met someone with so much love to give.....that is when he is not struggling.
Well, I hope I have a chance to get one of those big 'ol hugs one of these days. But, you know what that would mean....one of us would have to do some traveling to see each other. Traveling? What is that? And with these gas prices? We definitely will have to bite the bullet and get our kids together to play again this summer. I can't wati to see how your kids have "out grown" my kids...even though they are younger....hee!
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ReplyDeleteK - I published this one to show you all that it works - not sure what you clicked on to make it work but - tada!! So - if any of you do not want it published let me know and I will not:-)
ReplyDeleteI understand what you are saying, Brandi. Our kids can't really hide their emotions, can they? It is hard to be patient with those around us who don't have the experience of raising a child with AS. It truly is an experience! When you were sharing how Sam would run at people for a hug,,,,Angel did that, too. And yes, she has actually knocked over people.Not intentionally just because she was so anxious to spend time with the person.
ReplyDeleteYes, their loneliness is so valid and overwhelming to them. It's not that they don't want to have friends,,,they long for a friend. They are just not equipped to know how to socially go about it. It is heartbreaking to witness when you know what a beautiful person they truly are.
One day at a time, right? I really enjoyed our visit earlier this week.
Loved visiting earlier this week also - esp. loved your 'Angel' stories - can't wait to talk to you more:-)
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